Monday Musings – Shit’s Gettin’ Real Now!


We knew we shouldn’t do it. we told ourselves not to get cocky. But we did it anyway. Every day of dry ground, warm temps and sunshine was like an extra french fry in the bag…a thirteenth brownie in the box…a gift from the weather gods. Alas, just when we thought we had this icy thing called “Winter” licked, it whipped around and bit us right in the ass.

So, old man Winter…day after day of ridiculously frigid temps and snow up to my knees isn’t enough? No trash pickup for days didn’t do it for you? Kids out of school for weeks isn’t torture enough? Dogs piddling in the house rather than face your icy, menacing breath? You didn’t think that was enough torture? No. Now I hear you’re extending the abuse for several more days. Well…I’ve had it. I’m done. I’m just not going to participate anymore. As of right now, it’s Spring.

I don’t see your snowy beard or feel your icy breath. You are green and warm and little birdies are singing.

You can’t break me.

I’ll just dive right into the delusions that help me make a living.

So there.

Shit’s real now, isn’t it?  Yeah, I see you quaking in your boots. But those boots are dry, dammit! And flowers are growing out of them.

Such pretty flowers…

Sigh…

 

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Monday Musings – Love Comes in Many Flavors, Each one Worth Tasting


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It’s my tagline, but it’s also true…love comes in many flavors, each one worth tasting. I take pride in representing that mindset within my books, where romance isn’t restricted by gender concerns and my stories celebrate the gift of loving the human being of your choice, not society’s dictates. In that spirit, and in honor of the recent release of two new books, Hoale Lang Syne and FairySmacked, I’m holding a Facebook event today. https://www.facebook.com/events/904055282972271/

Join me and some of the industry’s best LGBT authors for a day of fun, sizzling snippets and great prizes! Discover great new books and visit with a carefully-picked array of talented authors who write Gay romance in a wide range of popular genres. Check out the amazing lineup below:

11:00 – 12:00pm Declan Sands
12:00 – 1:00pm Lia Davis
1:00 – 2:00pm Kindle Alexander
2:00 – 3:00pm V. L. Locey
3:00 – 4:00pm Lucy Felthouse
4:00 – 5:00pm Renee George
5:00 – 6:00pm Taylor Brooks
6:00 – 7:00pm Rose Anderson
7:00 – 8:00pm Jenna Galicki

I hope to see you there!

 

Monday Musings – The 100


Holy mother of flipping God! Have any of you been watching The 100, post apocalyptic adventure series?  I found the show when I was looking for apocalyptic series fare because I LOVE end of the world stories. Then my ADD kicked in and I promptly forgot about The 100 until my oldest daughter told me I had to start watching it. I have to tell you, I haven’t been so riveted (sweaty palms and all) to a show since the early seasons of 24. This series is amazing. The characters are fleshed out and real and the plot lines are terrifyingly fun. The villains are so delightfully villainous that you would happily pinch their heads off given half the chance. The heroes are multi-faceted. Everybody is flawed but most have so much strength of character you can’t help rooting for them and when they get gacked (yes…unfortunately a few of them do…sigh) you feel as if you’ve lost one of your own children. Yes, the action is sometimes slightly implausible, but the show is so good that I’ve been willing, so far, to overlook the silliness in favor of cheering for the outcome.

I highly recommend this series and I hope it goes on for a very long time. Oh, and that the writers don’t get stupid around season 3 or 4 like they usually do and start killing off all the characters or go off in some really strange direction. Unless and until that happens, I’ll be a loyal viewer. I haven’t had this much fun watching TV for years. And I’m loving every minute of it!

Monday Musings – Junior the French Bulldog


I’ve been sitting here trying to think of something wise and wonderful to say to send you into your Christmas with a light heart and a smile on your lips. I finally decided there’s really only one thing that will do the trick. Junior the French Bulldog. Before I share one of Junior’s wonderful videos with you, let me just say that there’s a reason Junior and his wonderful daddies have taken the Internet by storm. Sure Junior is adorable. Sure he’s a unique musical talent worthy of the canine version of American (or in this case, German) Idol. But the real reason I and millions like me keep returning to Junior’s videos on Youtube and his Facebook page  is the obvious love his daddies have for Junior and the secure happiness that is so evident on his squishy little face.

I’m sure I’ve mentioned before (probably several times) that I have a lot of dogs, currently 13. We rescue dogs and consider them part of the family. So it does my heart good to see how much Junior’s daddies love him. It’s a happy story for Junior of course, but it’s also a happy story for the two men who have brought the sweet little guy into their lives and allowed themselves to cherish him. Dogs have so much love to give…so much personality…if only we humans will take the time to discover the riches within them. I can’t think of a better metaphor for the Christmas season.

Merry Christmas, everybody!

I’m Thankful that I never have to watch St. Vincent again…


I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not always as thankful as I should be. Life happens, the world turns, and I’m always right there in the middle of all of it trying to pull it into some kind of order. My Type A personality is great for getting things done…but not so much for stepping back, indulging on introspection, and remembering what I’m thankful for. So I’ve strapped my butt in my chair and removed all mental and physical objects that might remind me of the dozens of tasks I still need to get done today…and I’m going to take the time to smell the turkey…erm…or something like that.  So, here goes:

I’m thankful that…

My loved ones, flesh and fur, are healthy and happy.

My computer still works, my car still runs, and my physical form remains in working order.

I never have to relive this year’s crop of bad and truly horrifying movies. Gah, Hollywood…just gah!

I discovered the A Cappella group, Pentatonix.

There’s another season of Walking Dead. Whoop, whoop!

I was able to keep my fingers firmly in my ears through all discussion of how gluten, and all my favorite things which contain the stuff, is bad…erm…lalalalalalala.

Christmas is still a month away.

I have no full length mirrors in my house.

The people who’ve read my books haven’t sued me for wasting their time.

I have a blog so I can expose the world to the drivel that is my mind.

That’s all I’ve got right now. Aren’t you glad? hehehe Happy Thanksgiving everybody! May your day be filled with lots of yummy stuff and a soft couch to catch you when you pass out from overeating!

 

Declan Sands writes romantic paranormal/fantasy and mystery/suspense, creating stories that celebrate the joy of love in all its forms.  Known for writing great characters, snappy dialogue, and unique and exhilarating stories, Declan is the award-winning author of 50+ books and has been writing for over a decade under several noms de plume.

 

 

 

 

Surviving the Holidays


Do you struggle with the hustle and bustle of the Fall and Winter holidays? Feel alone? Worry about the cost…in money and emotions…of jumping on the holiday treadmill? There’s so much pressure to celebrate–to love and be loved–during this time of year…it can all be a bit overwhelming. Though the spirit is pure, hope shines, and intentions are good, all the pressure to cherish the season can have exactly the opposite effect, turning you into a gloomy grumpus who just wants to huddle in a corner and sulk.

Company coming? That means days to weeks of preparation, cleaning, shopping and cooking. And the cost!  Parties to attend? It could mean too much to drink and/or the presence of some unexpected romantic tension when old loves or lovers intrude.  Gift giving? Don’t even get me started on that!

A lot of people suffer depression this time of year. Maybe they lost a loved one around the holidays…it’s not uncommon. Maybe they don’t have anyone to share the season of love with.   Or maybe they just think it’s much ado about nothing. Whatever the reason, it can be hard to deal with the almost frantic frivolity of the season. Feeling the pressure to enjoy the holidays, too many of us force emotions we don’t feel and/or overcompensate by doing too much.

So how do you cope if you’re not really feeling it…or even if you love the season but it exhausts you with its demands? The answer is simple…but maybe not easy.

Give yourself permission not to partake.

Wow. That sounds easy doesn’t it? It’s not. Telling people no who think they’re doing you a favor by forcing you to become involved can be really hard. They might even get mad at you. So be it. Explain why you don’t want to be included. Be kind. Know that they are probably pushing because they care about you. And rest assured that they’ll get over it.

But let’s be clear here. I’m not suggesting you hide in your room, slurping gruel in front of a meager fire, Scrooge-like. Don’t turn yourself into an outcast. And don’t neglect the people who love you. Just simplify. Meet friends at a favorite restaurant instead of cooking. Make simple, well thought out gifts instead of buying expensive stuff they’ll probably never use. Accept your emotions and look for positives. Approach the season in your own way, doing only what you think is right and fair. And I can almost promise that you’ll enjoy the holidays a whole lot more this year.

So get on out there and create your own celebration! Or stay in and read a great book by the fire. It’s totally up to you!

 

Sometimes going home is clarifying. Sometimes it’s just plain deadly!

Adam travels to Candlelight, Indiana to visit his parents for Christmas. When he arrives he discovers somebody has killed a man and dumped him in the manger of the living crèche at the local church. Unfortunately, all signs lead back to Adam’s father as the murderer. A Sheriff with a grudge and a small town more interested in gossip than reality, convince Adam that it will be up to him and the gang to clear his father’s name.

Susan, The Romance Reviews: “Declan Sands writes a beautiful, festive tale of family secrets and emotions, coupled with vivid descriptions of what Christmas is like in a small town where everybody knows everybody else. Once again the author weaves a spell of mystery, intrigue, romance, sex and friendship, all interspersed with wit and humor. This is a wonderful treat for the festive season of family bonding, friendship and danger beneath the surface of a small town and a definite must read, especially, if like me, you’ve read the rest of the series. Definitely well worth it.”

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I’m Declaring this National Mind Opening Week


It seems that every time I go online I see where somebody has posted a preachy and judgmental post about some hot button issue, usually distilled down to a bumper sticker type statement that is far too simplistic to do anybody any good. The post will then be followed with lots of hatey comments agreeing/disagreeing with the post. I’m frustrated by this whole thing. Apparently it has become illegal/immoral/unforgivable to hold a different opinion on things.  We’re never going to fix the things that are wrong in our world unless we open our minds to the possibility that somebody else might know something we don’t. So I’m going to declare this National Mind Opening Week. In honor of this week, I’m going to go to a source I generally don’t trust/like and listen to what they have to say for a full 15 minutes. Then I’ll do the same thing tomorrow and the next and the next…throughout the week. I’ll strive to have an open mind as I listen/watch/read.

By the end of the week I hope I’ve learned something I didn’t know before. At the very least I’ll know I’ve cracked my mind open a tiny bit.

That’s always a good thing. Right?